Friday, April 16

on not so good mothering

Lately, It seems as if I've been having a lot of ups and down's on mothering.

Sometimes I have no patience.
I quickly can't take it anymore.

I'm tired a lot.  I try and blame my bad mood,  and the not so pleasant things I say on not sleeping well.

And then I realize, that that is no excuse for being this way with the kids.   Specially Jeremiah, who seems to be blamed for everything these days.  After all, Audrey is just a baby.

It's hard to admit this, because I don't want to believe it myself, that I can get so angry and be so rude sometimes.

I'm taking daily steps to becoming a better mother.  Jeremiah is changing a lot these days, he is not that almost perfect kid anymore.  And he needs me to change too, to adapt to his changes in becoming him.

He answers with what?, forgets to say please and thank you (even after being reminded), he shrugs his shoulders all the time, leaves dirty cups in his room, has lied to us, and ignores our requests.
Everything I probably did to my mom.

Somehow I thought the terrible two's were the worst age.

He is not even a teenager yet

and instead of being in control, I have been loosing it.

I have been doing a lot more reading on positive parenting.  Positive parenting to a tween.  Is that even a word?

I recently read Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works by Nancy Samalin .  I really can't say enough good things, other than, read it.  It is a short read but says a lot.  It doesn't give you exact instructions.  Wouldn't parenting be easy if it came with those?

But, it does give you lot's of tips on listening to your child.  Examples of real parent situations.  And examples on how to turn negative situations into positive ones.  The author has several good books which you can find more about on her site.

I have so much more to learn, and time is ticking.  I will update you on future good reads, which I'm doing a lot of.

Thanks for listening, to me vent.

* I was not given any compensation for telling you about this book, I read it, liked, and thought you might like it too. 


Mamá Contemporánea said...

Amiga I feel igual que tu, not mention postpartum depression and other frustrations....I can't wait to meet you in Miami, so exciting.

Madeline said...

Oh gosh, I've totally been there. During my first trimester, there were so many times when my patience was just running out. I hated it. Things have leveled off now, but it really got me to thinking about parenting. I'm definitely putting this book on my to read list! Thanks!!

Lisa Renata said...

Hay amiga, I hear you. Parenting can be so hard at times. As you said there is no written guide to help make it easier and no matter how much we love our little ones life can get in the way and make it hard to feel in control. I've been there, we've all been there. The important things is that you take note of your behavior and what is causing it and how you want to change it. Hurray for you!

Stephanie said...

I think I'm going to add that book to my library list. Thank you for the recommendation!


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